My child doesn’t sleep without me! What do I do?

 My child doesn’t sleep without me! What do I do?

My child doesn't sleep without me! What do I do?
My child doesn’t sleep without me! What do I do?

Children may want to sleep with their parents when they hear thunder, have a bad dream, or are sick. Because in these cases, they may feel that they need their mother more. For most of us, this is perfectly normal. But does the same apply to your child who wants to sleep with you all the time?

Irwin Redlener, Professor of Clinical Pediatrics at Columbia University, says there are many reasons why your child might not sleep without you. First of all, depending on what need your child wants to sleep with you, this could be a sign of a problem. Try to understand this situation by talking to him. Another option is that if both you and your child enjoy this routine or feel that they need extra attention from you, it may not be a problem if your child does not sleep without you.

Your child may love the special time he spends with you. Maybe your daily life is too busy, and this ritual (sleeping together) is a way to reconnect. Maybe he’s jealous of his brother and sleeping with you every night makes you spend time together.

Another possibility is the need for trust. Incidents your child has with someone at school they don’t like can cause your child to need extra confidence.

A good opportunity to spend time together

There’s usually no need to worry about serious worries if your child wants to sleep with you. “This can be a great opportunity for parent and child to have a positive, quiet time together,” says Redlener, Professor of Clinical Pediatrics.

No matter what anyone around you says, by fulfilling your child’s wishes, you are not dragging him into a permanent bad habit. “Your child won’t sleep with you when they grow up and start college,” Redlener says.

May be in fear of losing

Along with these, there may be some ‘okay’ reasons why your child may not be able to sleep without someone at their bedside. The most important of these is that your child feels insecure about the relationship between you.

Your child may be trying to make sure they have control over you, or they may be afraid that they will be abandoned if they don’t keep you by their side. He may even feel that he needs to keep you close to protect you.

In these cases, what starts as a soothing routine can quickly become a habit. But if you suspect the presence of one of the major problems, consult an expert. Check with your child’s teacher or guidance counselor at school to see if they notice any problems. If your concerns still persist, you may want to consider seeing a psychologist or child psychiatrist.

Don’t give up your habit suddenly

If you want to stop sleeping with your child for any reason, be careful not to stop this habit suddenly.

Instead, Redlener says, you can agree to sleep 15 or 20 minutes each night with your child and gradually reduce that time.

But if there are no serious problems and you have time, do not think that you should completely give up the habit of sleeping together. Look to enjoy these times. Because these special moments will one day remain only beautiful memories.