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Positive parenting, or in other words, gentle parenting, is an evidence-based parenting approach that focuses on empathy, respect, understanding, and boundaries. When you’re raising your baby, you’ve probably noticed that there are many parenting methods. But if you want to take another approach, you might want to consider the concept of ‘positive parenting’.

So what is positive parenting and how can we apply positive parenting in our daily lives?

Positive parenting

Positive parenting is a way to parent without embarrassment, blame, or punishment. There is a collaborative style between both parents and children.

As the name suggests, it is a softer approach to parenting. Parents who practice positive parenting are guided not by rigid rules, but by consistent and compassionate boundaries.

Positive parenting, also known as cooperative parenting or gentle parenting, requires not punishing children in an irrelevant, independent way of the mistake made. However, if punishment is to be imposed, it must be related to the mistake made and there should be absolutely no humiliating and violent punishments. Communication and the use of democratic methods are essential in positive parenting. Positive parenting consists of four elements: empathy, respect, understanding, and boundaries.

What are the benefits of positive parenting?

According to experts, positive parenting has many benefits. This approach teaches children that they can be active, set their own boundaries, and trust their own needs. It allows children to make themselves stand out in an open and respectful way. It helps reduce children’s anxiety problems. It can help shy children become more active in this way.

Babies and young children, in particular, copy what they see. Because gentle parenting is based on empathy and respect, children learn to model these positive traits. This can make them kind, respectful, confident people.

What are the downsides of gentle parenting?

While gentle parenting has countless benefits, there are also cons. Implementing positive parenting practices with too many liberties and limits can lead children to exhibit bad behavior. If parents weren’t raised that way, or if you’ve just started practicing this approach to your child, implementing a positive parenting strategy can be difficult. Being positive doesn’t mean not setting limits for the child.

Positive parenting tactics you can try

• Be a good model

Show what you want to see on a regular basis. Always practice kindness, compassion and empathy. Speak less imperatively, but keep your message clear and unambiguous. Don’t make long sentences with contours for the sake of being polite.

• Give yourself time when you’re frustrated

The first and most important thing to do when you’re frustrated is to slow down. Calm down first and start the collaborative process again. Talk to your child in a calm voice. Try to understand the problem. You may need it a lot, especially during the period of two-year-old problems.

• Tips for tantrums

Sometimes children can push us and test our patience. Keep in mind that in such cases, children may have tantrums. In these situations, you should stay calm and let your child release their emotions. Once the tantrum has passed, you can focus on discussing what caused the situation and finding possible solutions for the future. You can approach him in the style of “I can understand you better if you stop shouting” or “Let’s calm down a little first and then tell me what happened”.